There’s a quiet message being sent to moms today: Let the experts decide.
But what happens when your instincts don’t line up with the guidance you’re given? What if the pediatrician rushes through your questions? What if the school doesn’t tell you everything about your child’s day? What if something just doesn’t feel right?
The truth is, you’re not just allowed to ask questions — you’re supposed to. You are your child’s first and most consistent advocate. And that’s not a flaw in the system. That’s how the system is supposed to work.
You Know Your Child Better Than Anyone
Moms notice things others miss. The change in sleep patterns. The small rash that comes and goes. The tone in their voice when something is off. That’s not anxiety — that’s attentiveness. It’s what parenting is.
Research shows that children thrive when their parents (especially mothers) are affectionate and actively involved in their lives. A 2025 study found that affectionate mothering in childhood may have a lasting impact on important personality traits, potentially influencing life outcomes like educational achievement, economic success, and health and well-being
You don’t have to be a medical expert to be an engaged parent. You just have to keep showing up and asking questions.
The System Can Be Helpful — But It’s Not Perfect
Doctors, teachers, and experts play an important role. But like any system, institutions can be rushed, overwhelmed, or incomplete. That’s why parents need to stay informed and stay involved — not to challenge everything, but to fill in the gaps.
Whether you’re asking about medication side effects, classroom reading materials, or food served at daycare — you’re not being difficult. You’re being diligent. That’s a good thing.
Trust Your Gut. Ask the Questions.
You don’t need to apologize for caring deeply. You don’t need to feel bad for saying “no” or “not yet.” You are the first line of defense for your child’s health and well-being — and you’re doing an amazing job just by having these conversations.